Whose Home is This?
I make judgements about people based on what their home looks like. If it's too messy and cluttered, it makes me uncomfortable. If it's too austere, it makes me nervous. If there are no books, I don't know if I can trust you. I like a lived-in space, just the right level of tidy-but-not-fussy, frequently used items within reach, evidence of human life - unique, vibrant, idiosyncratic human life. Recently, Jenn and I went to dinner at the home of some new friends. It was just after dusk, and as Jenn drove, I looked for houses with wide well-lit windows, seeking a passing glimpse into the secret worlds of other families. I love seeing random things, just for a second - an abstract painting, cluttered bookshelves, giant television sets, a lone figure stirring something on the stove, a shadow in a doorway - and imagining the people who there, who included these things in their home because for one reason or another they belong there. Our friends' home was not visible from ...